Kerry Cronin discusses "hooking up" on college campuses
Hannah Brencher
Issue date: 11/11/09 Section: Lead Stories
Although some of the forms of hooking up, such as the "hook-ups with hope," where one thinks that the hook-up might be the start to a meaningful relationship, seemed wild when actually verbalized, students in the crowd laughed and nodded in agreement with the truth to Cronin's observations.
"She was dead-on with everything that she said," said freshman Marie Ebacher. "I just kept thinking about all my friends and how these are the exact things that happen on a weekend."
Going far past just defining hook-ups, Cronin gave the audience a great deal of knowledge when she introduced her 10 rules to hooking up. "Everybody knows the rules. Even if you are opting out, you know the rules," said Cronin.
Rules included the "be chill" factor, where one should not act awkward while hooking-up, but rather be chill and look like they have no expectations, just a "go with the flow" attitude. A separate set of rules in itself were the rules of text messaging and hooking-up.
"If you hooked up on a Saturday, than you should be texting on a Tuesday night," said Cronin. "The 'where are you' text is an indicator that you might want to hook up again."
As comical as the rules may seem, in retrospect, Cronin reveals a social script that has come to dominate college culture. Cronin remarked that across the board students communicated to her that they were unhappy with the way things were, unhappy with hooking-up to fit in, but they had no idea how to change it.
"What students want is to feel connected and they want to belong but this social script makes for disconnect."
Cronin's open discussion on the disconnect that comes with hooking-up was the fuel for dialogue amongst the audience.
"I think it is kind of 50/50 at Assumption," said senior Christina Graziano. "There are a lot of people that I have met during my four years at Assumption that end up with other Assumption people."
At the end of her lecture, Cronin presented each person in the audience with an assignment, the same assignment that she gives to her capstone seminar course of juniors and seniors at Boston College.
"She was dead-on with everything that she said," said freshman Marie Ebacher. "I just kept thinking about all my friends and how these are the exact things that happen on a weekend."
Going far past just defining hook-ups, Cronin gave the audience a great deal of knowledge when she introduced her 10 rules to hooking up. "Everybody knows the rules. Even if you are opting out, you know the rules," said Cronin.
Rules included the "be chill" factor, where one should not act awkward while hooking-up, but rather be chill and look like they have no expectations, just a "go with the flow" attitude. A separate set of rules in itself were the rules of text messaging and hooking-up.
"If you hooked up on a Saturday, than you should be texting on a Tuesday night," said Cronin. "The 'where are you' text is an indicator that you might want to hook up again."
As comical as the rules may seem, in retrospect, Cronin reveals a social script that has come to dominate college culture. Cronin remarked that across the board students communicated to her that they were unhappy with the way things were, unhappy with hooking-up to fit in, but they had no idea how to change it.
"What students want is to feel connected and they want to belong but this social script makes for disconnect."
Cronin's open discussion on the disconnect that comes with hooking-up was the fuel for dialogue amongst the audience.
"I think it is kind of 50/50 at Assumption," said senior Christina Graziano. "There are a lot of people that I have met during my four years at Assumption that end up with other Assumption people."
At the end of her lecture, Cronin presented each person in the audience with an assignment, the same assignment that she gives to her capstone seminar course of juniors and seniors at Boston College.
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Hm, this was actually very interesting. I never realized that this type of culture leaves young people feeling unhappy and disconnected. They generally give off the perception that they are satisfied with this lifestyle. (Continued…)
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